Joined: Wed Mar 16 2005, 01:18am
Location: in a Finnish goat hut north of the Arctic circle
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about... 17months or so..
and for the past.. 4-6 months.. He's been telling me his feelings have changed.. He still loves and cares about me.. Just isn't sure if he really wants the whole long relationship deal anymore. So.. we are on a break so he can think about his feelings without me being around to cloud them and what not...
So I'm sitting here waiting for the next however long this break is, Just to probably get hurt again.. I'm not sure, this is all confusing to me. It is my first long relationship as well, But I'm in no hurry for it to end. Stuff like this to me, is just like friendships. The only difference, Is your more close to the person than you are to than anyone else. And you don't go around and be that close with others.
And yes I know 17 months isn't that long.. I'm his first girlfriend though so I dunno. And yes I'm 19, and he's 20. I'll be 20 in feb.
I haven't talked to him in over a day. Because I'm sick of the one doing the stupid IMing myself. and if really cared to talk to me, he would IM me anyways..
So.. I'm just waiting.. It hurts though, And now I'm catching a cold and my throat hurts. ah whatever. That's one from halloween.. I'm the one with the horns. me and a piece of cake.
Derek and I on halloween.
My friend Dani and I. also halloween. I didn't feel like making a whole new thing
Joined: Wed Jan 12 2005, 12:39pm
Location: Plague of Madness
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She's from TBB Suze, most everyone knows her. :wink:
Hey Luby! *hugs* Welcome to TSI, you keep getting cuter and cuter the older you get.
I know it hurts, but Daph gives good advice, you should live your life and do not spend it pining over him. If it was meant to be, he'll come back around and when he does, you may have moved on and not want him anymore, you never know. You really should take the time to date other people, you are too young to get so serious with only one person never haven dated anyone else.
Joined: Wed Jan 12 2005, 12:39pm
Location: Plague of Madness
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I dunno, he seems too nice a guy to be the using sort, but still, no pining, date date! *prods*;P Besides, when he sees you dating others, he may be like, oh hell, wtf am I doing, I'm gonna lose her! Because Luby, you are a dish. :wink:
It's not a break from the relationship.. Just a break so he can think about his feelings and such and what he should do. Basically he's taking the time to see if he even missing me or anything.. Which I think is lame.
And for all I know the break is only for 2 weeks. I dunno. But it does hurt a lot. And I honestly don't care to date others. Plus again, it's not a break from the relationship we aren't going out to look for people. He's just taking time to think.
And then he has to take care of his band I guess while his manager type deal is gone.. So I don't know what's going to happen.
he's going to be really busy with all that, might be getting this job..
I don't think he'll have time for me. But.. I also do know that if you do care/love someone.. You'll make time for them...
OK... I know this works differently for girls as it does boys, but I reckon just go out and have fun. You dont have to shag anyone, but it'll help if you meet a bunch of new people, and looking at your pix, you wont have any trouble meeting new people. He can sort his feelings all he wants, wont make a lick of difference.
Or you could come to Australia, and I'll show you some kangaroo's or wombats or something. Make sure to bring your friend Dani.
don't feel bad, Suze, *hugs* I don't know her either.
about the break thing...most of the time, if you have to have one of those, the relationship is over. If he comes back good, but don't go wasting your time waiting on him. You can go out and enjoy yourself with your girlfriends and whatnot. I'm not suggesting dating around. That's not really practical, and it says to him that he didn't mean much to you anyways, but don't waste your time pining either. However, go out and enjoy yourself. IF he wants to talk with you and spend time with you, HE"LL make the effort to do so. If he doesn't, then you have your answer.
Joined: Sun Jan 30 2005, 03:22am
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my theory in life in general is to not let life pass you by and to go out and have fun while you can. I know that seems ahrd but it worked for me in hard times. I just thought to myself..fuck this... life is too short to be waiting on hte sidelines when I can get in the game and have fun too! But thats just me.
He can be a real dick... Like through all of this, he kind of is being one. I'm sure he doesn't mean to be. But he definitely is being a jerk. Since I can talk to him online and such. But he never really says much back. so I have to ask random questions for him to talk to me. But whatever. Stupid. I try not to talk to him, Then I get bored. and i'm like well i'll IM him. So then I do. and it's always the most boring conversations because he doesn't talk back, "I don't really have anything to say" but then he can sit there and talk to all his friends about whatever random stuff he wants. Eh This is lame and stupid.
Honestly don't see this going anywhere.
And I wear the necklace he got me for christmas everyday.
Joined: Wed Jan 12 2005, 12:39pm
Location: Plague of Madness
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Given the way he is treating you, I know what I would have done at your age, but then, I look back on it as being wrong now, I treated guys like dirt back then and you are way too sweet to make him suffer or to sink to that level, you should go with what Daph, Lusive and Rach are telling you.
I think 80% of the internet is evidence that High School is never over.
Fuck him and his break. I just wouldn't talk to him. Go out find some other lad to play with and then tell him where to go. I wouldn't wait for him. No matter how much I cared for him. To me, when a bloke says he wants a break.. it usually means he wants to fuck someone else.
...but thats just me. I see it as if a man can't treat me with respect then he's gone. Buh bye!
